Notes on #PussyTalks: Sluts and Whores~~

Wow thank you all for the letters and the notes, the memes and the pictures; they made my day just that much brighter. I had retreated into a very deep place, something to do with my natal Pluto, Mars and Venus aspects from where I might never fully return. Astrological work will be coming up shortly as well as more on Sacred sexuality.

Jupiter in Scorpio brought about a wonderful surprise, remember it is on the third house from Ascendant. The house of communication and the energy is Scorpionic with Jupiter amplifying all those attributes. I spoke to a group of empowered Escorts and sex workers who know and love their work. They also love their clients(well most of them).

You might not know, but I have been interacting with escorts, Johns, Dominas, Tops, Bottoms, Crossdressers and many others from the sex industry for very many years. Collecting data and looking through a Uranian filter on such SCORPIONIC ISSUES.

Something about the way women’s sexuality presented itself in society did not do much for my identity as a sexual being. In fact, I told that virginity was something to be saved for your husband. Fuck yes, I remember it. Fuck, everything to do with sex was such a stigma. All the time.

Obviously bad girls like me do not listen and we do what we need to do to experience life in all its awesomeness. How can you leave out sexuality which is at the very crux of human civilisation?

It made no sense that it was so hush-hush. It made no sense why my BFS got so jealous if other men(including their brothers and their best friends) looked at me or spoke to me with excitement. They behaved like I was their possession and it pissed my rebellious spirit off to no end.

In fact, it happened to me recently. I lost an old friend because her husband could not contain his excitement at meeting me! And this is one woman who should have known that I will never be into her man. Even if he was my type. It hurt me tremendously and is a wound I have been carrying for a few months. There I spoke of it…

Such is the place from which Pussy Talks was conceived. I had to discover for myself that I was not alone. I was not the only woman who CRAVED TO CONNECT. I was not the only woman who wanted it uninhibited, raw, deep and fiery.

I knew there were others.

That is when I learnt of the Virgin/Whore archetypes. That is what society has reduced us to. Either we are good little virgins(wives, mothers, sisters) or we are whores(free minded bitches). I may be a wife, but my husband knows very well and loves the fact that he does not own me. I am as free as he is.

I saw girls gossiping amongst themselves every-time someone lost her virginity. There were always the most psychotic, obsessive, desperate-to-accomplish types who held on to their hymens.

It was strange the way they held on to their virginity as a commodity with which they could in some way leverage a better deal.

Not for me. Hahahahahaha! Some even went for hymen transplantation. Such is the saga of human sexuality today.

Working through the sacred slut archetype yesterday with the ladies MADE ME SO EXCITED that I made up my mind to write this post. Every woman has the right to feel this orgasmic bliss that rocks her whole being. It is as much your birthright as it is mine.

Most times, men will not give it to you, so you must learn to give it to yourself till you find the ONE you can merge in sacred union with. Trust me there is someone who will make love to you and stick all the broken parts back together. Dreamy shit…hahahaha!

Anyway girls, your virginity is not a commodity and the first time you make love, keep in mind that even if the person is not your Mr. Right, even then, be PRESENT in the moment. In the NOW. Be there. Smell him, feel him, feel the whole scenario and just experience it. Do not feel upset if it is not what you had in mind. Embrace the reality while knowing that the fantasy might happen, someday.

There is nothing as disturbing as losing your virginity while drunk or drugged. In fact, if you decide to lose your virginity, make sure, you and your beau abstain from alcohol, especially if you are doing YONI PUJA or tantra meditation sex. Remember, this is not Neo-Tantra, so my ideas may differ from what is being sold in the West as Tantra.

I know that to activate your sexual energy, you have to connect with your pussy. It has to be done. My work with women focuses on activating the GODDESS FORM INSIDE EACH OF THEM and the YONI or the PUSSY becomes a direct symbol of the GODDESS.

The ladies I spoke with were working with sexual energy and if they work with the GODDESS FORM, they might find more magick in the work they do. The men will also respond to this energy flux. This might result in lots of kundalini activity.

Although they were pretty adjusted on the surface, yet, some of them failed to really tap into their INNER SACRED SLUT/WHORE and sex work can become healing work if you just understand how to work with the energy and it all begins with INTENT.

Most girl were telling me that they find no time to meditate or do anything spiritual at which I told them and showed them how putting on your daily make up can become a meditation.

They were thrilled I can tell you that.

As Jupiter moves through Scorpio, society will be confronted with FEMALE SEXUALITY like never before.

Believe me, wild sister, man wanted monogamy. You did not. He decided to control you while you were pregnant and had to depend on him. And look now, what has changed. Women’s reproductive rights are a joke.

Women are way more sexual than men and the Courtesans and Sacred Whore of yore knew this. They were SLUTS because unlike the wives they did not belong to any man, but chose to mate with whomever she liked.

No man controlled her, not with money, not with sex and not with children.

She was free to explore her sexuality and in most cases made it a spiritual practice. Women have this inherent wisdom and trust me, talking to sex workers from all over, I can tell you that they are some of the wisest and experienced women, especially if she has successfully drawn on the COURTESAN archetype.

For the Courtesan was a truly accomplished Artist and MUSE, sometimes of really powerful men. She was a Philosopher, a musician, a singer, a confidant, a seductress and even a top in bed and she played all these roles to perfection.

Why are wives sacred of the Courtesan? Like some women are scared of sexually empowered women? These women are your witches, your bitches and your bossy bosses. Don’t you just hate them? Hahahahahaha!

The wife fears the courtesan because the courtesan does not need any man. But the wife does. Remember she is a wife and her whole identity is wrapped around that little concept.

The Courtesan is free from this. She is sexually free, in most cases(if she is smart, lol) then she decides and chooses her lovers and they in turn provide for her. Yes the Courtesan is seen as a FREE and available woman and in most cases vilified, but it was not so in ancient times and it is also imperative to end the stigma behind sex work and prostitutes. They are girls, like you and me.

Escorts and sex workers have to understand SACRED SEXUALITY, because they work with kundalini energy at the very base level and if they manage to rise up in vibration as a collective, then imagine what could happen. Our society could change.

Being in love with somebody and cohabiting with someday- two totally disparate concepts. How can you love someone if you know them intimately? The courtesan provides the allure, the mysterious. Whereas the wife is an open book that the husband mostly ignores because he has read every page. So instead of going through the painful process of reinventing yourself over and over again(spending tons and tons on the way you look and getting stressed AF), wouldn’t it be better if we redefined feminine sexuality.

It is so very important for women as a collective to come together and scream out that- WE RECLAIM OUR SEXUALITY, our reproductive rights…We will decide as well how sex and sexual imagery will be portrayed in media and in society.

Look at the images in front of you…hacked and quartered limbs of women selling you products. The breast will sell you everything, but when it pops out to feed an infant- ALL HELL BREAKS LOOSE. While breastfeeding my toddler the other day at the airport, I was stunned at how many men stared at my breast, forgetting the fact that they were once babes suckling on their moms.

Look sexual imagery is created for the MALE GAZE. There are no spaces for women to express their sexual preferences, desires, fantasies and the rest. Fuck that, there is really no avenue for women to be sexually empowered. Look around you, wherever you go…the violence on women is apparent and evident.

You cannot hide from it now.

Working through SACRED SEXUALITY and all the archetypes in our consciousness must be a top priority, not just for sex workers, but for all women and men out there.

Men are being fed a garbage diet of misogynistic porn and soon to come, robot sex. Think hard. How will a man handle the idiosyncrasies of a real woman. So men, tune into your sacral chakra. It has a lot of wisdom.

Men are not from Mars and women are not from Venus, although they are the cosmic archetypes of masculine and feminine. Both men and women are from Earth and it is time to join together.

A woman is way more sexual than a man. Believe me and please note that the walls of the vagina do not get stretched or loose with sex. In fact the pussy is full of elasticity, the muscles and tissues can expand and contract easily and return to how it used to be.

I have heard so many women bring this up as a lack of interest in the men that I feel like shouting it out from the roofs tops. Google it bitches…check it out. You can start the Kegels later on now.

There is so much bullshit propaganda around female sexuality thatt it has perverted human sexual expression and its freedom. Society never makes women’s sexuality a priority. It is a filter through which a male can masturbate and enjoy. Watch the lesbian porns out there and you will know of what I speak. You already do.

The clothes we are meant to wear. They are so freaking uncomfortable, some of them, yet they serve the purpose of the male gaze. Look at the bikini, it is an elaborate subterfuge to get women exposed so men can stare at them while sitting with their wives. Making the wife insecure and getting her hating on the younger girl. See how it is a vicious cycle. The wife hates the sexually free woman, even though they both stand oppressed in the hands of patriarchy.

Little girls are falling under the trap of hyper sexualisation and that is creating a more perverted scenario where they find it hard to fit in and adhere to set norms of beauty because they are unrealistic.

If women became sexual beings and decided to take matters in their own hands, then things could change. Women can bring about a change in the way society perceives and separates us.

Maybe there can be BALANCE if men and women contribute to the sexual repertoire. It will benefit us as a culture.

Ladies reading this, you need to reclaim the INNER WHORE and trust on your vagina. You have to begin a relationship with it and start to love it. Like your womb.

You can only bring pleasure to your husband if you learn to pleasure yourself and take sex as an artform. If you tap into the COURTESAN archetype, you will see how it shifts your whole energy signature and sexually awakened tigresses are beacons of hope for the rest of the females because we have been so repressed and controlled in that department that we have lost our voices to speak of sexual pleasure. Or wait, people might call you a SLUT/WHORE.

So what?

 

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What to do if someone is your Twinflame??

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“I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where. I love you simply, without problems or pride: I love you in this way because I do not know any other way of loving but this, in which there is no I or you, so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand, so intimate that when I fall asleep your eyes close.”
― Pablo Neruda, 100 Love Sonnets

Yes a lot of us are feeling this intense longing for our Twinflame and why won’t we? I mean this Twinflame is not only just a mirror-soul, but he or she is the very song your soul sings, the very luminescent and magical colours of the rainbow, the acute explosion of a supernova!

I mean how can we dis such an important phenomenon that is sweeping across mass-consciousness? Even people who are in relationships are in some way pining for their Twinflames. All I dream about is gazing into his eyes forever! What colour would his eyes be? A mixture? Does it change colour? You can try this too. Gaze into your lover’s eyes. You will feel an intensity, you have never imagined before. If you are intuitive, then you will just know. And if you think you are not intuitive, then please know this that every human being has powers of INTUITION whether they develop it or not is another thing.

It’s simple logic. The very penetration of this dense 3D matrix is possible if you join in SPIRITUAL UNION with your Twinflame. Yes my peeps…it is possible to awaken the latent kundalini energy at the base of your spine.

“Kundalini means, according to Zeena ‘She Who is Hidden,’ and points to the dormant goddess in every human being’s body. While the kundalini force is found in muladharachakra, she hypnotizes humans, like maya herself, and renders them slaves to the illusory. Kundalini can only awaken people if she travels up along the spine.’ ~~ Zeena Schreck, Demons of the Flesh: The Complete Guide to Left Hand Path Sex Magic

If your SACRAL CHAKRA is depleted, it might mean you are facing relationship woes one after the other. It could also mean that the person you are trying to attract has become nothing more than just an idea! To put it plainly, you do not get the people you desire and the people who show interest in you are the ones who really don’t matter to you!

Yes that is the case with a lot of people that are looking to find love or a passionate amorous encounter. Remember never to make sex cheap! Even if it is a one night stand. Please remember that the person you have shared intimate energy with will be now karmically inextricably connected to you! Stupendous stuff, yes?

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Always respect the person you are sharing this wondrous moment with and you will only gain from the experience. Sex is your life force.

Cut back to the Twinflame stuff again….

So this yabyum union of the male/female polarities has the potentiality to take us beyond this 3D to 5D. Sex magick is extremely powerful and if practised properly, one can lose physical body awareness. As in the couple truly become ONE CONSCIOUSNESS!

Isn’t that beautiful! Okay this type of bliss can only be achieved whilst practising in certain ways. Sex is one of the most powerful forces in the Universe and we can harness great amounts of energy from it.

‘Sex’ is as important as eating or drinking and we ought to allow the one appetite to be satisfied with as little restraint or false modesty as the other. ~~Marquis de Sade

Yes sex is a physiological function, but then it is so much more…it is magick!

Now imagine having sex with your Twinflame. How good does it feel to be in his arms? How good does it feel to kiss her? How good does it feel to touch and kiss and make love? The whole experience is amazing right? It truly is. This love and Twinflame business has had me loosing sleep for many years now.

Now imagine that SEXUAL LONGING, that intensity multiplied a million, trillion times….no exaggerations. It feels like a million quasars bursting when two Twinflames unite in higher dimensions! This is why this force is so strong and propels some of us to keep looking. Some of us will not give up. Say what?

And sometimes when Twinflames meet, even if for a day, the energy between them is RAW, UNTAMED. It is not the normal polite, go-on-a-date, cordial type of energy. This energy can bring about destruction if you are reckless with it. Do everything at your discretion!

Most of the people suppress this STRONG urge, but certain individuals like me persist. I always knew that there was someone somewhere who was the closest to me. I mean I could never explain this feeling. It was just there. But who is he? Where is he? Tell me in the comments section, have you felt this unknown connection to a stranger before?

Then I uncovered this whole Twinflame thingy! And I never looked back. I immersed myself in research in occult books and libraries trying to discover more. I spoke to holy men, women and mystics to gather data. I began to speak to lovers of all ages.

What is this Twinflame? Does it even exist?

As I met one asshole after the other, I became convinced that finding my connection is not going to be easy. Obviously we have other karmic ties we must severe to unite. My partner does not believe in Twinflames, but he has seen a vision of us melting in each other in the yabyum position; and we were beings of pure light! 😉 I think he is hinting that he is my Twinflame! Is he?

I have not only been doing theoretical and field work, I have also continued to meditate on the phenomenon. I will suggest a few mind exercises at the end. You can sometimes compare two natal charts to figure out if the lovers have past karma and more often than not, these types are twinflame connections.

You know good old Romeo and Juliet. Yes Twinflames my dears. Why do you think that such star crossed lovers feature so prominently in our collective psyche? Why are all the great love stories tragic? Why do we not rave about two people getting married and growing old together. That is like most people, but we still hold such intense, volatile obsession for love stories that bring to us something that transcends the ordinary.

This transcendence of the ordinary, this mystical feeling of butterflies in the stomach when you see someone you really connect with can be quite invigorating. And we humans love it. We love to love. See Satine and Christian…what a love story! One of my favourites. No matter how many times I listen to this, it will never fail to move me beyond words…This film makes me feel all sorts of Twinflame things. Ha! You? When they kiss first? When he woos her? When she dies in his arms? The show must go on…

How many of you are like me? Obsessed with love? Sometimes I think it is a concept I am running after and anyone with flesh and blood will disappoint. Because you see any and every relationship will disappoint, no matter who is involved. IN this 3D world, the world of duality, it is not possible for relationships to be untainted or without baggage.

And definitely not your Twinflame lover! Nope. It will be anything but ordinary, mundane and boring. Your INTUITION will become super charged if somehow you are in your Twinflame’s vicinity. You will begin to feel it right away….just trust yourself, and your heart.

So do you think you have identified your Twinflame? First and foremost, make sure that this person is in fact someone who is so close. Because if you keep running after people thinking they are your Twinflames, then ultimately you will get disheartened. I have seen it happen too many times…

Take it easy if you think you know him or her. Do you know them? Who are they? What kind of person are they? Identify what makes you think they are in fact this person! In most Twinflame scenarios, there will crazy types of synchronicity. Yes and they will be staring in your face. You just have to find it. Are they married? Dating?

If you know him/her, then start to cultivate a friendship. Do not rush into dating. Feel the vibrations. See if your heart is pointing to someone then in most cases, it must be looked at. The heart does not lie. The heart has its own electro-magnetic field which is tied to the heart of the Cosmos. So channel this energy and ask your heart why you think this person is your Twinflame.

Journal your thoughts everyday. Meditate on that person. Go out if possible, but as a friend initially. And do not start blabbing about Twinflames for fuck’s sake. Just get to know each other. Your Twinflame will attract you immensely, even if they do not like the same things. I already told you guys that your Twinflame will not feed your ego.

Okay what happens if you do not know each other. Well then I would seriously ask you to reconsider. Why do you think then he or she is your Twinflame? You say that you feel it, but then if it is something you have felt for a moth, then do not take it too seriously. It can flake off. But if you can identify an instinctual overwhelming inexplicable connection to someone, then it is worth exploring.

if you have thought of someone for many months, may be even years in some cases I have seen, then it is very possible that this person could in fact be pulling at the strings of your heart from previous lives. If you want to get to know this person, then start a convo. See if there is any reciprocity. If not, it is best to back off.

Make it about something general and see if you genuinely connect. If this person does not even know you and you are too scared to make the first move, then let it lie. You can keep observing for signs and in the meanwhile you can set intention for him or her to ping you instead.

Of course it is possible to get someone to ping you. Yes with your mind. Let me tell you how to do this. First identify the person. Clear your mind and meditate. Then visualise that person picking up the phone, opening the messenger and drafting out the message.

Actually visualise what the message will say. See it in your mind and then see him/her press send. Then see it coming to you. Give thanks to the Universe as you open it in your mind. Read it as  you know what it says. Then feel the emotions that you are experiencing after you get this text. What happens to your mind? What happens to your body?

If you feel the need to pleasure yourself, then do so at the end of it. Use a black and red candle at the end and see it burn. Watch parts of your visualisations in the fire as the candle burns. Sit in silence and let the Universe works its magic. You have to do this a few times to impress this on the Akashik field.

All I am saying is that do not rush into identifying every passionate relationship as your Twinflame, so when the real thing pops up, you are left broken and embittered. Keep an open mind, but use your powers of discretion. Follow your heart, but take your brain with you.

As the Age of Aquarius becomes more characteristic, we will see relationships metamorphosing and becoming changed forever. We can see this happening with the rise of polyamory, femdom and other such sexual mores. So if possible, keep an open mind and explore the phenomenon of human sexual relationships in all its aspects, of course without harming anyone.

What if you feel no connection to your Twinflame? Tell you what why don’t you concentrate everyday at a fixed point and just send love and healing to your Twinflame. This will greatly expedite his/her karmic growth and you may meet finally one day.

In fact this is how I began to send love to my Twinflame and believe me today I know that he is as aware of me as I am of him, but I seriously doubt we will meet in this incarnation! Why do I say this? It’s complicated, just like the FB status.

“You are a livingness, a verb. What is arising in you, at this moment, is the great realization.”
― Christopher Zzenn Loren, unSpiritual: A Spiritual Journey

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The Wolf Goddess~~

What a sight you are!

A true Goddess of your own creation.

The holy red gushes down your legs.

You stand naked, bare breasted.

The defiance in your eyes.

The slight smile on your lips.

They magnetic sway of your hips.

They ridicule you and laugh at you.

Your raw power scares them.

You know how to CONNECT.

You know how to join together.

You are a natural leader.

And that scares them.

They call you a sinner.

Never will you be a saint.

Even if you have fed the last morsel to them.

They have burnt you over and over.

But from those ashes have you arisen…

Again and again.

With different names.

In different countries and cultures.

The guilt they have bred in us,

Is not to be found in you.

The palpable fear is also absent.

For you seek no validation from them.

You don’t care to play by their rules.

Holiness in every ounce of your blood.

Every Goddess of every culture,

They reside in your body.

You are holy, the Creatrix!

You are not afraid of pleasure.

You know what to do with pain.

You are here to liberate other sisters.

You are not looking for personal gain.

Never have you controlled the urges,

That women have been taught to do.

Instead you have transmuted them into alchemy.

You have transformed them into divine inspiration.

You have ignited the fires of passion.

And made magic with the man you held.

For a God he was when you made love to him.

You are his Goddess.

You are  our Goddess.

Your mission is to tell the others.

To activate the powers of the Womb.

This FEM-FORCE will steer us into a new awareness.

Let them worship the sacred blood of your menstruation.

For that is the only atonement from their end.

To have defiled and demonised the sacred life force of the menstrual blood.

They say you are a whore.

What does it matter if you are Madonna or a whore?

They have raped, pillaged and tortured,

The mother, maiden and the crone.

No one is safe.

They will find the Wild Ones.

Silenced they must be.

But how can they be shut for life?

In their voices is the fem-force of life and death.

We will be told we are evil.

We will be told our magick is for the devil.

The Devil is but Lucifer, the bringer of Truth.

The apple is the process of initiation.

It is you, yes you as Eve,

Who initiated Adam.

It is you Sita, who burned Rama’s sins,

In the fire of your sacrifice.

Wild Woman you will make us eat time and again,

From that sweet apple of knowledge and passion.

Run like a She-wolf and howl at the moon.

You are the Matriarch, the very crux of civilisation.

Tonight under the Full Moon, you will rub the damp earth on your body.

And make love to the Earth.

She is as wild as you are.

Soul lovers through infinities.

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Charged astro: Venus in Aries RX, Do things differently!

Her image had passed into his soul for ever and no word had broken the holy silence of his ecstasy. Her eyes had called him and his soul had leaped at the call.
To live, to err, to fall, to triumph, to recreate life out of life!
A wide angel had appeared to him… an envoy from the fair courts of life, to throw before him in an instant of ecstasy the gates of all the ways of error and glory.”… James Joyce

Venus had disappeared into the heart of the Sun to be reborn as the morning star. Retrograde in Aries, firing up my poets’ soul. Igniting intense aching of love and sensuality. Did you ever feel that you no longer exist? That you have successfully dropped you EGO or I construct? During an orgasm?

If you have never felt the wild fires of sensuality assault the very fabric of your senses, then it is now the perfect time to ALLOW yourself to experience something so intense and passionate that it will change the way you look at the world forever!

With so much of activity in fiery Aries, we can be assured of one thing. We are ready to ignite! Now you could use this fiery energy to set fire to your sheets. Seriously! Why channel this into something destructive? I mean fire always does not have to destroy? Does it? Where would we be without fire? Think about it! The dichotomy of life. Nothing by itself is evil or good. We make it so with our perspectives. We give meaning to phenomena.

So what meaning are you ready to give to the astro? Venus disappears from our view and it is at this time that our UNCONSCIOUS becomes fertile with this alchemical marriage. There is so much scope for transmutation. Dark Moon Lillith in SAGITTARIUS is trining Retro Venus in ARIES and squares the NORTH Node in VIRGO and the SOUTH NODE in PISCES who is asking us to uphold INDIVIDUAL INTEGRITY!

Ah, the impetuosity! Our reactions and thoughts are spontaneous. Remember that our libidos are fired up, no matter who or where you are! So even if you are in a long-term thing, you might suddenly develop the roving eye! Stop beating yourself up about it. Instead be honest with your partner and try to find ways to spice up your intimate time.

Just wanted to say that while Venus is in this position, normal missionary sex will be boring. Even doggy-style is for the yesteryear. So if your beau is unable to keep the erection, then it might be a good time to start exploring other options like prostate play.

The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that surrounds the urethra and houses the male G SPOT. You can find innovative ways to stimulate it with oils and massage. The male is able to feel full bodied orgasms that are impossible during hetero penetration.

The other spicy ingredient you can add and must add to your sexual experiences is roleplaying. If you’ve not done it, then go ahead and do it. As simple as that. I am not going to chart out elaborate sexual fantasies here. Lol! Find what turns you on the most and do it. This Astro is so helpful to chip away at redundant sexual mores and traditions. Changing the dynamics of sexual play can be extremely fulfilling. Venus in Aries RX is urging us to become child-like in our innocence and purse such things with a rabid freshness.

There is a sexual revolution brewing in the air. The WILD WOMAN archetype is awakening. She is a carrier of the Ancient Feminine Spirit and Venus Retrograde will help you channel that energy. Venus retro is a direct symbol of ACTIVE REBELLION. She is not SUBMISSIVE. She is the DOMINANT!

In retro she shows us how to shift our perspectives from the pleasant and often over simplified rendition of her archetype and pushes us to explore deeper. What does it mean to be feminine? What does it mean to be WILD? WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO FEEL DOMINANT? If you’re a guy you might consider what it would feel to give your partner complete control for one time while you’re in bed with her. Think of her doing whatever she wants to do and you have no say in it.

I think this is very healthy to UNLEARN toxic patriarchal traditions, customs and mores. We humans have to give each other the respect to try all roles. Men who are control freaks need to understand that there is nothing as healing as letting your woman take charge of your sexual experiences, for with her intuitive wisdom she can really catapult your sexual growth. Of course she must be adequately inspired to be trained or to train herself in such matters.

I suggest that all coupes try reversing roles in bed. Try once to begin with and see how it feels. Pegging can be extremely exciting for men, because your G-SPOT is activated. Actually it is called P-SPOT for guys.When a male is anally penetrated by his woman, he can begin to UNLEARN and relearn different facets of sexual expression. Women, if your guy wants to be pegged, remember that he is placing huge amounts of trust in you. Use a double-ended dildo for the woman to feel physical stimulation.

Guys you need to begin pleasuring your woman with your mouth and hands if you are doing so already. You can even buy her crystal eggs which you can use during a yoni massage. But be sure to earn the technique before you attempt this.

Venus in retro reshuffles our needs in the areas of all things Venutian- money, sex, arts, beauty…and she offers a realignment. To the individual and to the collective! We need to drop our calcified concepts and impassioned we need to reinvent our relationship with money, sex and the arts.

Think of this deeply…how are you holding yourself back from experiencing more of the Venusian energy in your life? Are you tired of the way you experience sex and intimacy? Do you want to take it a notch higher to experience deeper cosmic orgasms? It is up to you.

The New Moon in Aries is also giving you ample manifestation power to make things work in your favour. Go out into the world and kiss the sky!

Oh, oh, oh…before I go…every encounter that you experience is FATED. Karmic! Accept it all as sacred and as spiritual debt and pay it forward…with love and empathy!

If you’re single and ready to mingle, then you might want to summon your partner with the help of a Switchword phrase. BRING-PERFECT-MAGIC-VENUS-LOVE-CHARM. Venus might decide to grant you a boon and send you your twinflame. Who knows?

Venus favours the bold… Ovid

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Breast Love!

“Breasts are a scandal because they shatter the border between motherhood and sexuality.”
― Iris Marion Young

So often we hope and crave for what could have been or what we want instead on loving what we have! Ah, foolish humanity! Stats are appalling at the percentage of women who are comfortable with their breasts! Let us fuck that for now.

Do you agree that most women are not happy with their breasts? In fact breast surgeons in California have had huge amounts of women who wanted a duplicate pair like Salma Hayek! Seriously! Women just expected that the doc could somehow replicate her tits!

Fuck knows why! Our breasts are so feminine, so sensual and yet we ignore them. We wish they were larger, smaller, perkier…blah, blah…

As a breastfeeding mother to a three and a half year old toddler can be quite challenging, but I have embraced the role. In fact I will continue suckling her till she wants to stop. But yes it does a lot to the elasticity of the breasts!

But I actually love my breasts much more than I have ever done, because I have seen them sustain life. I have seen them exclusively breastfeed and provide the best suited food for my baby.

The point is breasts are gorgeous…no matter what shape, size or colour they come in. They are so important to your child. I know how my toddler treasures them. I love sucklas(that’s what she calls them), says she and hugs them.

I get irritated sometimes, it is not always easy to stick a tit in her mouth and continue with my day. She is huge and refuses to stop. But breastfeeding her for so long has bonded us heavily.

A study showed that women’s self esteem are often tied to their titties, but most do not carry a positive image as they are bombarded with impossible images of perfection in magazines. It is difficult for the normal woman to compete with the model in the magazine. The woman has no stylist, cameraman, lights, decor, multiple tries…and photoshop! Fuck yes.

So women tend to have lesser self confidence because of the shape or size of their boobs. Also a thang(purposely misspelled) to remember would be- breasts are not just sexual organs…they also are food sources. So society needs to understand and address this.

Look at how difficult it is for breastfeeding mothers who choose to do so in public. She faces all sorts of problems if the internet is to be trusted. Look at vlogs, blogs, posts, memes…it is everywhere.

You can sees tits everywhere, but when it comes to a breastfeeding mama, no…society has to freak out. I openly breastfeed by the way. Look my breasts are not on my body so you can stare at them and wank off later. No.

My tits are here to feed my baby and that’s what they will do. So stop sexualising the breasts when they are not intending to send you those signals. Remember the viral video where this guy does an experiment with two women- one, a scantily dressed girl and a breastfeeding mom. Watch the video to stay abreast of how toxic our society really is!

Anyway breasts will sell you everything- but they cannot be flashed in the open to feed a child! What a lovely society we have created. Yes your breasts are for your man, but remember they are first and foremost for you. They are deeply connected to your womb.

Look at the breasts as a symbol of self love. As an organ to nurture. And why not? Look where they are placed, right next to your heart chakra! How sublime is that!

Girls, stay away from underwires. Don’t be shocked! Our heart pumps blood, however lymph only flows from movement and massage. So, if you wear an underwired bra, you are blocking that lymph flow, and toxins remain in the breast tissues.

Now just use your favourite carrier and essential oil combo…anything that works for you can be used. Find time, the safe spot and silence. Now spine straight, breathing will stabilise as you keep observing it.

After a while, focus on the muladhara and feel the energy vibrate. Then lift it up and bring it to your crown chakra. Let it vibrate there and then bring it to your heart chakra. And start counting…1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9…till 1000. It is a very effective tool to get into meditational trance. It is okay if you lose count. Just restart from whichever number comes to mind, just keep the focus in your heart chakra.

Your heart centre will start feeling warm and glowing. Keep your right hand on it and say…I LOVE, I AM LOVED AND I AM LOVE!!! After chanting for a bit, sit in silence and think of your breasts. Think of what you feel….think of how much you love them…think of how they bring pleasure to you or how they have fed your kids. Think of all the good things. It is not likely that negative thoughts will pop up if you have managed to centre yourself with the meditation and chanting. But in case, negative thoughts trouble you, watch them. No judging or feeling guilt.

Start the massage with the oils. Send love with each stroke. Feel the energy flow increase not just through your breast but through your entire glandular system. You are going to feel heightened and sensual.

The breasts nourish the pineal gland, the pitutory gland, which is the master hormone, the thyroid gland, the thymus gland, which is responsible for our immune system, and the adrenal glands, and our ovaries. When we massage our breasts, and in particularly our nipples, all of those glands are stimulated, and brought in alignment.

We release hormones such as oxytocin and prolactin which cause uterus contractions, relaxes and bonds us, makes us hanker for one another.

Now knead your breasts sensually and squeeze your nipples. You can reach a profound state of sexual stimulation. This is aligning you from the inside so let all the feelings wash over you. Feel everything. Let it all purge. Feel like light and feel light.

Now feel golden healing light surround your breasts, loving them, energising them and protecting them! Feel this healing take place and let that golden halo disappear in your breasts.

Sit in silence cradling them. You may start to play with your nipples and then bring yourself to multiple climaxes.

Write to me if you try this…tina@tinaheals.com

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The Astro suggests Tantric Sex tonight~

I am ecstatic to announce that tonight there is some wild and sensual astro happening- Moon squares Neptune. The Moon is in Sag- aha! And Neptune is the ruler of Pisces. Venus is retrograde pushing us to maddening depths of emotions and feelings.

So what do you get with this mix? How can SAG and Pis merge? Oh, let me think. Philosophy and myth debates that heat up into intellectual kerfuffles which could lead to electricity crackling in the air and then when sexual intimacy takes place- it feels like a dose of spiritual energy has been infused in the love making process!

So I am going to suggest a small meditation module for tonight.

Clean up your space, sage it and prepare it with candles, incense and aroma oils. Use the diffusor. Take a long soak in the tub, preferably the two of you. And do not start making out please! Just lie with each other and make an effort to join your breathing. Breathe together. Feel each other’s heartbeats as you sit soaking in the tub.

Now feel all the negativity draining from your body. You may use chants or switchwords when doing this. A good one would be ALLOW-FLOW-BE, which releases your internal blocks. You can keep saying VENUS-DIVINE-BE!

Do it together- do it consciously. Step out and wipe one another clean. Gently and not sexually. Just as if he is a human, you are not concentrating on the sexual angle right away. Now rub oil on each other. Get a nice carrier oil like jojoba and then chuck a few drops of your favourite essential oil. You can use amyris, clary sage, jasmine, neroli, patchouli, rose, rosewood, sandalwood, vetiver, ylang ylang- they all work as aphrodisiacs.

Rub it in with conscious intention that your hands are filling this person you are caressing in this erotic massage is being healed. Oh yes by now the massage has gone erotic. I cannot start explaining exactly how to massage, because I believe there is no hard and fast, one single way to do it. The massage is an adaptation of deep rubs, kisses and caresses, suited exactly to the person in front.

Drop all thought. Very important. Exist in the moment. Exist in the now. One will massage the other and then the other will return the favour. Get it. Do not try to massage each other together. Nope. After you have completed the erotic massage, then stand up and hug.

After the hug, start NOW massaging each other. Build the intensity. Oh stare at each other the whole time. Stare into his eyes. Try to see beyond his form. Whatever you think is divine, associate that image to him. He is divine and guys, so is she. Try to feel the energy flow in each other’s bodies. You may actually see colours and your auras.

Then sit in meditation in the yabyum position, the symbol of divine union.

“Yab-Yum” is a Tibetan term meaning “father-mother”. The man is on the floor, in sukhasana or padmasana and the woman sits on his thighs while his lingam is in her yoni. The man’s penis will be inside your pussy, but do not move. Sit in that position. It symbolises the union of your root chakras. You have become ONE. Keep staring into each other’s eyes. Homosexual couples, please decide between each other who will take on the yang role and who will play the yin energy and sit accordingly.

Keep staring and keep breathing, the lingam inside the yoni. This is potent sex magic as the sexual energy with meditation can transmute itself to Spiritual. The Union will feel like you are losing consciousness. This does not happen in a day, it is to be cultivated.

Your crown chakra is channelling energy from spirit and merging it with your sexual energy. Please OBSERVE THE ENERGY and how it is flowing through your body. Try to identify blockages. Work from your heart chakra.

Some tantric teachers urge the participants to communicate their feelings to one another while in yabyum, but I personally leave it to you. You decide if you want SILENCE to be a part of this meditation or do you want to use loud chanting and/or speak to each other. It is entirely up to you.

After about staring for twenty minutes, then close your eyes together. Keep deep breathing. Now concentrate on your muladhara chakra and feel a ball of energy vibrating there. Now lift up that ball through your spine and bring it to rest in your crown chakra. Stay there. Keep breathing. If you cannot hold your erection, do not freak out. You are now PURE energy, not a limp dick!

Finally end the meditation with an orgasmic explosion, although it is absolutely normal if you do not desire penetration. During tantric yabyum most practitioners avoid the peak orgasm(ejaculation) to leave room for the much stronger full body orgasms, squirting orgasms, anal orgasms, prostate orgasms, vaginal orgasms, womb orgasms and more. You can feel things that are very VERY intense.

Your partner may cry as some of you guys know that women cry after an orgasm. Some of them do. I am one of those and it can get pretty intense and in fact some guys do too. Do not be awkward if she is crying, just hug her. Do not judge, label or criticise or offer advise. Just let her be. Be there for her.

Keep sitting even after everything is done and hug each other in yabyum, close your eyes and bring your focus to your third eye and stare inside. Finish off by doing namaste to each other.

If you do try this, drop me a mail and tell me how the experience felt.

Thank you!

Namaste!

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Seductive Scorpio Moon:Open up to feelings!

“Holding the hand of your woman or man, why not sit silently? Why not close your eyes and feel? Feel the presence of the other, enter into the presence of the other, let the other’s presence enter into you; vibrate together, sway together; if suddenly a great energy possesses you, dance together – and you will reach to such orgasmic peaks of joy as you have never known before. Those orgasmic peaks have nothing to do with sex, in fact they have much to do with silence. And if you can also manage to become meditative in your sex life, if you can be silent while making love, in a kind of dance, you will be surprised. You have a built-in process to take you to the farthest shore.” …Osho

Sexual desires and longing are peaking in many individuals. I have been unable to update my blog at the sudden influx of people who wanted to consult me for my Sacred Sexuality Meditation Modules. And this feeling is not just about feeling horny or salacious. This deep ache that you feel down there will not be satiated with mindless unconscious sex. No!

This sexual craving under a Scorpionic moon that is sextiling Pluto is screaming out for healing. For greater awareness. For conscious sex. If you’re guilty or ashamed when thinking of sex, then understand that it is a deep rooted cultural thingy. You are not abnormal, no matter what your mind conceives of. No bestiality or paedophilia included. No harm. No rape. When two or more consenting adults get together and explore their sexual feelings and fantasies, they are opening channels to profound healing. Sex is not an aberration! In fact it is the very fundamental basis of physical existence. Where would we be without copulation?

So under this sexy and sultry Scorpio moon try not to repress your sexual feelings. In fact clear your mind, keep your spine erect and let your mind wander. Watch what really turns you on. Do not shame yourself, do not blame yourself. If you want to hurt someone during sex, then please consult a Psychiatrist.

I am not referring to the BDSM subculture. Being a Top is actually hardcore responsibility and the Mistress is essentially a mentor, lifecoach and shrink rolled into one. That is how the Tops perceive it. Quoting from kinksters round the world.

So let the Moon do what it does best…let it heal you with a little bit of energy from the Pluto sextile! Pluto is going to bring transformation if you allow it to, in your sex life. Awaken to the potential of human energy. Understand the sex creates massive energy and that can be channelled into a tool for awakening and conscious living.

If you want to be aware of spiritual sexual ecstasies, then you might want to look into sex as a meditative practice. It is imperative our society understands the necessity and importance of a healthy sexually empowered culture. It is not just linear sex with orgasm that will awaken us to our sexual potential. No!

Our sexual energy is a part of our ojas, or Chi or life force. To reach your fullest potential, you must be able to move this sexual energy throughout your body. Repressed longings create blockages that can result in abnormal, unhealthy sexual appetites. Entities will prey on you and you will become a voracious sex machine. Even if you are single and a monk, what will you do with your sexual energy? They learn to transmute those feelings into meditation.

But what of ordinary people? WTF are they supposed to do? Who do they talk to without being judged. Listen it is absolutely necessary for your psychological well being to discuss your sexual feelings with your partner. If you are unable to do so or are single, then consult a professional. You can always ping me if you have specific questions.

How can I practice sacred sexuality of I am single? I get asked this a lot. Let me explain…you do not need a partner to be a LOVER! Sexual energy is running through our bodies, through our nadis or subtle channels. And that energy if tapped can make you powerful, confident and sexy. A woman in control of her sexuality is a magnetic being! She owns her space wherever she goes.

So are you ready to take ownership of your sex life? Do you want to learn to ground that scattered sexual energy? Then begin the journey of exploration…our sexual energy is a part of the cosmic sexual exchange between the primordial male/female polarity. That is why Shiva is represented as the lingam and the yoni which is the symbol of the Devi’s vagina is at the base! The pussy is a microscopic representation of the cosmic pussy!

Moon is quincunx to Uranus in Aries and Eris. Eris is a dwarf planet discovered in 2005, and there are two Eris’ in myths. The second Eris is the bloodthirsty sister of Ares or Aries. So I was reading this astro blog and in the comments below I read that when an astrologer was asked, “What is beyond archetype”, he said Eris! See how Eris is a symbol of what is beyond knowing…metaknowledge! metawisdom! Real feelings, some of them scary as shit will be stirred up, but it might teach us to integrate this meta sexual wisdom and come TOGETHER to become WHOLE in your individual wholeness!! Healing can occur, but there could be toxic volcanic eruptions of anger and violence! There will be a tendency to play the blame game! Don’t we all just love it!

The other interesting alignment is Moon trines CHIRON in PISCES! Yes Chiron the wounded healer is involved and whenever that happens deep, deep, deep issues can be healed. Depends on your natal chart of course, but this could be pivotal in breaking through sexual myths and taboos.
Working with countless women in groups and individual sessions I learnt that women have a  great deal of misconception around the subject of orgasm. There is shame and secret suffering because they cannot open up to their partners and 50% of women fake orgasm, stats say.
What has mainstream religion taught us? Sex is immoral! Sex must be demonised, judged severely and repressed. We have been told repeatedly that if you are a sexual being then forget about spirituality. Because the two are as apart as oranges and apples! Fuck why?
That is why there is no sensitive, intelligent sex ed in our society. Let’s not even get into discussing the sorry state of sex politics in India. Let us not waste time. Kids learn about sex from dubious sources and often fall into traps and exploitation. Some get pregnant, some get infected. I mean look around…you have to be blind not to notice it! Yet the internet is a storehouse of porn. Abnormal, disconnected, soulless porn.
I have to mention that I want people to create more art and films that deal with sexual themes that keep in mind our real experiences and potentials in bed. Let us not get carried away by what we see on screen, because reality is far superior. If you scrutinise porn with awareness and clarity you will see it is propagating a culture of idiocracy. Sadly it is teaching our children what to expect during copulation! So kids are learning nothing about intimacy, affection, foreplay or connection. They are caught in the linear narrative of sex which is psychologically and emotionally damaging to the impressionable young who are desperate to learn about sex. I know I was.

Listen it is okay to be bipolar sometimes as long as you are ready to purge and move on. Just don’t hold onto baggage you don’t need. This Scorpionic moon is offering healing…but there is a prerequisite! FEELING!!!

No Cogito Ergo Sum is going to save us. In no way am I trying to demean the intellectual processes, but the need of the hour is FEELING! Raw, unedited, untainted feelings…Oh did I tell you that the Scorpio moon trines Pisces sun!

How much more mystical can you get! How much more can the Universe tell you that FEEL…it is okay and safe!! Use the number 519 916 if you want to energise your sex life. Write it with pink or purple on your left wrist. And remember to practice eye gazing with  your partner every day, at least for five minutes….watch how the floodgates of your feelings explode!

Hear it from the Boss…

“Thoughts are the shadows of our feelings — always darker, emptier and simpler.”― Friedrich Nietzsche

Are you going to do some sexual healing utilising all the energies available? Are you ready to step into the shoes of an awakened sexual being? Then it is time to let go…of all inhibitions and enter into the yabyum state with your partner.

I have a deep spiritual background and have tried to look at every experience with a spiritual lens. Sex is no different. In my Sacred Sexuality Workshops I use ancient temple arts, modern psychology, shamanic practices that re-programme our neurological conditioning to let go of destructive beliefs and conditioning.

The crystal I want you to use is the Lapis Lazuli…the azure blue is swimming in my consciousness…teya te aum bekanze bekanze maha bekanze, razda samyongate soha!! Salutations to the Medicine Buddha and Guru Padmasambhava!

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Thank you for reading..

You can email me at tina@tinaheals.com

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